Nerdy Ladies and Geek Credibility
There’s been a lot of speculation on teh internets in the last week on what it means to be a Geek Girl and whether or not it’s appropriate or needed to reference your gender when describing yourself thusly. There’s also been talk about whether or not “attractive womenz” can be geeks without being seen as pandering to a target demographic. Also some rumblings about geek cred in general. What is geek? Who is geeky? DEFINE PLEASE.
Dire questions for the ages. Like trying to define cool or hip or…it’s a labyrinthine process that only ends in tears. Since that way = madness, I will not even attempt.
So should ladies have to describe themselves as “Geek Girls” rather than just geeks?
At first I was like: Hell No!
But now I’m like: Why not?
What does it say about a person if they are uncomfortable with peeps referencing their own gender? It goes back to this whole thang that pops up every now and then when it comes to blogs written by women: I want your perspective, but not as a woman, as a person.
Inevitably (not hatin’, just sayin’) it’s a guy because being a white male entitles you to not ever think about being a white male. The entire existence of the world is crafted around submerging you into a comfortable bubble which echoes back everything you love and hold dear as being “normal and cool” while everything else is foreign, bewildering, and frustrating. You simply tolerate it because when you express this frustration/bewilderment, the other beings around you with less comfortable bubble lives get fucking pissed.
The truth of the matter is: Experiencing popular culture/nerd and geek culture is different for everyone (I’m throwing my weight behind this being true for a lot of men/women specifically). Not because we say so, just cause IT IS WHAT IT IS. And there is value in naming your experience. Am I right? I think I’m right…
At times my experience as a woman seems irrelevant, but at times it seems very relevant. As is any bias or lens with which you view the world. Owning up to it and being honest about it is totally cool.
What’s all the fuss about then? Apparently if you are pleasantly shaped and easy on the eyes – you have to work harder to be seen as legit. WHAT THE FUCK ARE YOU SERIOUS? This is especially true for Geekdom, in which the entrance is closely guarded by cave trolls and a bull with a nose-ring that wants you to memorize, recite and argue geek trivia as if he were your 8th grade history teacher.
Which is fucking stupid. I should not have to pass a fucking quiz to be a geek. I geek, therefore I am. Simple as that.
Especially since it’s been determined by Dr. Me that ladies and men respond differently to their fandoms. I like costumes, fanvids, mix CDs and knitting hats. Also writing reviews and occasionally some fan fiction which will NEVER see the light of day. My husband likes memorizing facts, reciting quotes, podcasts, arguing points about said facts and to some degree hoarding. Well, we both kinda like hoarding. An aspect of geeking is collecting, which we only do based on our swelling or shrinking pocket books.
So when Geek Girls get called out on the carpet and asked to explain why the more attractive of our gender SHOULD NOT get to be called geeks if they don’t know the name of Han Solos’ shaggin wagon…I kinda balk. Shouldn’t they be fine if they’re willing to dress up in a screen-accurate character costume and be ogled/scrutinized by 10,000 people on the convention floor? Provided they are not being paid for it, of course. Then, it just gets a little weird. Kinda sad. Who knows though – they may like their job. So, go for it ladies. Get that money. How is it anymore demeaning than some of the male attention seekers/profit-earners I’ve seen at conventions?
BUT IT’S PANDERING TO MALE SEXUAL FANTASIES DAMMIT. OBVIOUS PANDERING! WHY AREN’T YOU LADIES MAD AS HELL ABOUT THIS!? Waaaaatch:
Who says your geekdom or your experience of it is the be-all and end-all of nerd? Popular culture and nerd culture run the gamut – science fiction, fantasy, gaming, comic books, technology, etc.
There’s Twihards and Shakespeare nerds and Jane Austen nerds and you know – Literature People. There are people who go fucking apeshit over science and math and history and grammar and music AND all sorts of weird ass things that you probably don’t give a flying crap about.
Invalidating their experience or taking away their cards is not going to earn you any points. It’s the folks who are embracing all the weirdos (and their extra income) that will win the day. You are just going to be a sad floppy sack in the corner.
MODERATION IN ALL THINGS AKA GROW UP
Nerdiness, and my experience of it, is best enjoyed with a side of moderation. As are most things. Balance, ya know. Does this make me less geeky? Probably in someone’s estimation. But I like living my life the way it is and wouldn’t change further immersion in geek culture for my love of crappy reality TV, clothes shopping and yoga classes.
Being too crazed over one thing isn’t EVER attractive. Even on super attractive people (I’m talking about you, Tom Cruise). What is attractive? Appreciating that some people will like different things and you will not always agree.
What are those revelations called again? Oh right, growing the fuck up. Not spending the rest of your life indulging in juvenile fantasies of being ostracized or winning the hot chick or befriending the most popular guy in school.
People who play those games for the rest of their lives will always lose. So it’s best to come over to the losing side NOW and enjoy the free cookies.
Frankly – the world would be a lot better place if we could all get over ourselves and stop pretending like our comic book collection, perfect nose/teeth, special mutant ability or any other such nonsense makes us “better than someone else.”
An ego created with the illusion that it is better or more perfect is surely doomed to lead a sad life. Versus being cool with who you are and awesomely respectful and appreciative of the diversity all around you. You COULD ALSO DO THAT.
I’m thankful that most of us can get over the chest-thumping BS indignation and get back to enjoying our privileged ass lives that allow us to argue and obsess about trivial shit like this.
Frankly I’m now most interested in this question:
Is this backlash against the pretty ladies a more peripheral response to the shifting demographic of geekdom? I seem to remember lady monies dominating the last few years at the box office in the Twilight sense and in general a greater recognition of “us.” So are the men (and men apologists, you know who you are) getting pissy cause it’s getting harder to tell the good guys (nerd girls) from the bad (sexy charlatans)? Or are they pissed because we’re invading their territory with our own take on what it means to be nerdy therefore widening the dichotomy and stepping on their toes?
Afterall – it’s easy to deal with that ONE geeky girl in the group. It’s much harder when there are one hundred, one thousand or one million.
LINK LOVE: “THIS MEANS SOMETHING”
-The Drama Starts Here w/ a Post by Zooey Mae.
-And then the response by The Nerdy Bird.
-Next – Zooey Mae hits back.
AND THEN SOME PEOPLE GO OFF ABOUT FAKE GEEK GIRLS:
– And then a dude gets pissed when teh nerdy ladiez don’t approve of him defending their honor. They are stupid, don’t understand humor and misinterpret everything he says. “WTF ZOMG I HATE EVERYONE WITH A VAGINA.”